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[BOOK REVIEW]: How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

How to Win Friends is authored by Dale Carnegie. The goodness about this self-help book is that it is not time-dependent. While it was written and first published in 1937, How to Win Friends is still relevant today. Evidently, Carnegie was able to write a book that is classic and timeless. The secret would be that it was written by a person who has a deep understanding of human nature. For the author, you have to go the extra mile for other people to feel appreciated and important if needs be. You need not manipulate and exhaust energy out of these people to get what you want really. Instead, you have to tap on their eagerness to do things for you without asking them. As such, How to Win Friends offers deep and practical learning on how to deal with other people without the need for blatant criticism and deliberate resentment. 

Relating with other people is not without difficulties, especially if you do not know how to connect with yourself. How to Win Friends shows the significance of this by illustrating points based on the anecdotes of historical figures and world leaders, and everyday folks. Impliedly, the book tells any reader that if these figures and leaders can, then why can’t you? This reminds me that respect and cooperation should be gained and must not be demanded. There are simple ways that the book teaches you how. For instance, How to Win Friends highlights the need to be an empathic listener and the need to be as humble as you can. As powerful as it seemed to be, the book can make a worthy friend in you that people around would want to keep.

While How to Win Friends was written with a business context, which means that it is purely ‘transactional,’ you cannot deny that it can transform anyone. This is more so for those who are looking for deep relationships with other people. Of course, there will always be people who are impossible to get along with that no matter how much you apply the techniques you have learned from How to Win Friends—you will get zero results. If you are consistent at it, though, they might open up to you and what you can offer to them. After all, everyone has a humane side too.  


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